Both of you are very sensitive, sympathetic and emotional,
with moods that shift and change like the tides. Though you may hide behind a shall of equanimity or indifference, you are really very easily hurt and take almost everything personally. You both have deep feelings for, and sentimental attachments to, the past, your home and family, or anything or anyone you once had a close affiliation with (school, home town, friends, etc.). If your backgrounds are very different, this may be more of a problem for you both than it would be to other people, because your identification with your origins is so strong.
Both of you need to be needed, and desire a very close, secure, loving and protective relationship. Family or domesticity is extremely important to you. Because of your empathy for one another, and your similar temperaments, you blend quite well together.
A sympathetic rapport exists between you which enables you to understand one another's feelings, needs, insecurities, and inner life very well.
Both of you have a deep need for nurturing relationships, for a sense of family and belonging, and a strong home base. You become very dependent on loved ones for a sense of security and you often smother the people you care about. you have a strong desire to mother or be mothered by your mate.
Because you are so sensitive, moody, and easily hurt, some people find you difficult to live with, but you find one another quite understanding.
A few problems may arise however. One is that you may reinforce one another's dependencies and weaknesses by babying one another too much, or by clinging to one another when one or both of you really needs to branch out in order to grow. Also, what happens when both of you are feeling vulnerable and needy and want to be babied at the same time? Who will do the parenting? At such times you may both act very childish, like "spoiled brats" in fact!
Although you both strive to be responsible, respectful, and dedicated to each other, there is a strong tendency for this relationship to focus TOO MUCH on responsibilities and commitments. Cancer is likely to feel unjustly criticised, frustrated by Cancer's moral and ethical attitudes, and eventually resent the limitations and responsibilities imposed by this relationship. Emotional distance, coolness, indifference to feelings, and a sense of loneliness or oppression can develop between you. To make this relationship work, you both must avoid the tendency to let your sense of responsibility and concern for the other person cause you to try to control your partner's life.
This relationship is not an easy one! There is a sense of responsibility towards each other that may incline you to marry or form some kind of long-lasting commitment to each other. But although the union is likely to be long-lasting, it is also likely to have more than its fair share of frustrations and difficulties. At times you both feel emotionally constrained and inhibited by being together, and this relationship may feel like a form of imprisonment! or need to dominate Cancer's life. Cancer's emotional needs and feelings are ignored and neglected at times, leaving Cancer feeling alone in this relationship. Most likely there is too much emphasis on responsibilities and obligations and not enough attention given to the needs for acceptance and tenderness. The serious tone of the relationship also stifles play and light-hearted fun-loving activities. This relationship may endure even when your feelings towards one another have cooled because there is a great deal of security in it, even if there is little satisfaction over time.
The passionate, deliciously amorous feelings you arouse in one another initially are destined always to be an important "glue" in your relationship. This powerful drive you feel toward one another will be hard to ignore, and it is unlikely the two of you will ever be "just friends". No matter what you tell yourselves, the sexual energies between you are highly charged, and the love-desire quite intense. Your feelings for each other will always be "hot", and are unlikely to ever cool to indifference. However, if other aspects of your lives bring you into conflict, your animosity toward one another would become as hot-blooded and fierce as your love. You simply will never be lukewarm toward one another. Nevertheless, prospects for deep fulfilment - at least on the physical level - and sexual harmony are excellent. This is part of what draws you together, one of the purposes of your relationship.
Your style of sexual expression is very intense and exhilarating, wanting to produce, is always foremost in your mind. When you climax, you will burst together with considerable intensity.
Despite whatever joys and blessings this relationship holds for the two of you, it will also entail a lot of hard work. Patience, forbearance, the ability to continue despite obstacles and discouragement, and accepting the necessity of compromise and humility, will all be required of you. Facing the fact that there are some things you simply cannot do, a lessened sense of freedom, and a definite awareness of containment and boundaries are all a part of it. At times, it may all seem too difficult, tedious, and stifling. If either or both of you gives up too much for the other - as is definitely indicated - this can be a source of considerable blame and resentment. But accepting the bitter with the sweet is part of what your relationship is about.
